Maybe there are those who have no idea what I mean, but honestly, I would not believe you... Spending a lifetime with another human being is certain to bring negative feelings from time to time.It is hard to walk through these seasons and keep a positive attitude. I mean, my husband can be the most wonderful man in the world, and then the next day he can be the biggest most inconsiderate jerk that ever walked the planet! How do you get through the days that you want to deck your husband?? Well, from my experience: shut up and pray...then press on.My best advice is to not look at the moment but at the big picture.Is the grass greener somewhere else? Nope. It is either fake, or filled with so much manure that you would be happier with the dull shade you already have!Will it ever get easier? Hmmm... this is a tough one. I am not sure. Looking at my life: no. The closer I get in my walk and the more God wants from me, the harder and harder it gets.Is it worth it? YES! It is worth it for many reasons... A few are: I will not leave a legacy of divorce with my children. If I cannot walk in forgiveness with the man God gave me, I cannot expect it in return. When I look at all of our good days, I can see the value in preserving our future days. This post is coming straight from the muck.I just got my Proverbs 31 Wife Handbook in print and am going to start a weekly Online class. Well, let me tell you, diversity has come a callin'! Suddenly, I find myself … [Read more...]
Sometimes I just Cannot Stand the Man…
Taming of the Shrew
Note: I really hope my transparency does not offend or scare any of you! I am just being open and honest in my struggles as a wife who is still BECOMING all that God designed her to be! :)The thing about me and my temper (as far as dealing with my husband) , I can turn on a dime. I mean he just has to say one seemingly innocent comment, and it can trigger a emotional hurricane in me that would scare the most daring of storm chasers! If you have been reading this blog for any length of time, you are aware of my Dark Phoenix side. Honestly, that character in X-Men really does explain what I mean. I mean she is sweet and kind on one hand, but then there is another side of her that will incinerate anyone who gets her panties in a wad!Sadly, I seem to fail in the area of my temper over and over again. It is incredibly frustrating to think that I have it under control--and then boom: I have a violent cyclonic storm fly out of me at the speed of light! Of course I always repent afterwards and feel completely ashamed... Case in Point... Since about two months before my little one turned 8, my husband has been acting like she should now be an adult. I mean, he thinks she should no longer need her music box at night, baths, playing with dolls, her blanket, etc. I think he is insane. Did he forget the other one we raised?? These things are gradually let go of...over years of growing and maturing. It does not happen all at once. It is little by little. She is like many 8 year … [Read more...]
Special Needs
My husband is the first to admit that he is a "special needs husband". There are days when his specialness drives me to the point of rage. He has an overwhelming need for "clarity" and order. It can be downright frustrating for a free spirited, messy, chaos loving woman like me! Case in point... Now, this is just a small example. I can write a book on the man's "neeeeeeeds"....LOL!Anyway, we recently switched our cable company services. We found a better deal and hopefully far better service than what we had been dealing with.I cancelled the service and paid our balance. Then, I confirmed that we were in good standing and at a zero balance. Case closed.Or so I thought...We get a bill a few days after I had closed this file in my life. Unfortunately, my husband happened to check the mail and see the "bill".You see, I KNEW it was not a real bill. This company likes to waste paper and send bills regardless of whether they are still valid. I tried to explain this to my beloved husband. However, he was convinced that they were trying to ruin our credit (which to be perfectly honest is already ruined from our past years of drug use...another long story...). I told him that it was not a real bill and to trust me; we were paid in full and fine.The pain in my rear wonderful man could not accept the fact that I already knew the answer and was certain we were fine. He would not stop pestering me and asking his normal annoying "clarity" questions.I lost my … [Read more...]
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